As I share my reflections with you each week on early Sunday Mornings before I head out to the best house on the street to meet; the Good Lord’s House. It’s my time with you to encourage you to reflect on your past week and analyze it to better plan for your upcoming week. Absorb and release- change-improve, move efficiently to accomplish more than you expect as you grow towards your goal. Take time to reflect on your past weeks daily activities from work to play every week so you can keep trotting ahead like a champion.
Reflecting to projecting. That’s the way to make your life stronger, wiser, and to have a clearer site for your path ahead by breaking it down to one week at a time.
This weeks Sunday morning Reflections with: E. Michelle Lee/ subject: Anger – 4-15-2012
Anger is not all bad. Oh it’s mostly bad, but not all bad. Sometimes it takes Anger within us to catapult us to respond to action. And that, my friend, is a “Good Thing”. It’s ok to have anger that causes y0u to do something better towards whatever it is that you are angry about or towards. That’s positive anger.
It’s that negative anger that scares us and is something that we should avoid.
Continuing reading to see how to use Anger for something good to come out of it. Help yourself understand that you can be angry for the right reasons. See what you can do with your Anger energy
Now when you get to this point; I don’t believe that this Anger could be healthy. It just looks painful to be all scrunched up like that. Whew,, did he ever have a bad day. Wow this poor guy to the left here, reallllly must have been angry. Not the good angry either.
Did you know that scientist have proven that some people enjoy getting upset so much they do it as often as possible to feed their endorphin addiction. People who yell and scream all the time when they are angry release this natural chemical in the body that makes them feel elated as long as those endorphins flow through their bloodstream. Google it for yourself “Natural Endorphins”
So When is it OK to get Angry?
As I look back in reflection of my previous week; I think about the several occasions I had to deal with people through my anger at what they were doing or saying. It wasn’t easy nor was I always on top of it as much as I would have liked to had been. I wondered if guilt was what I was feeling or was it rightful thinking that wanted me to be angry?
A couple incidents stick out prominently that had the same theme around them; perception of others about my intentions and agenda through the Give Back 2 Pay Forward again. So I wondered as I put myself in check; does it look that way. NO- and I should be firm on that without guilt while having the right amount of anger towards their words, actions, and inaction’s that followed.
Lord have mercy, even Jesus got angry. He had to in order to get the attention of the people. See, some times the right kind of anger about the right things; is OK. The right kind of anger can bring about passion that fuels change. That’s the kind I decided to use for my Give Back 2 Pay Forward concept that I continually defend as a solution to economic lack in individuals and business.
Anger channeled properly can:
- Anger can help you decide to do something about it
- Anger can inspire you to change
- Anger can help you stand firm in what you believe in
- Anger can be the backbone that ignites others to stand with you
- Anger can defend those things which are tried and true
Anger is like Photography, it does develop you.
And after re-thinking a few emails and conversations; I know my Anger is justified as defense of something that I stand for. You cannot be a pushover in life and allow others to override your beliefs to suit their own nor to adhere to their perceptions and lack of understanding of the bigger pictures in life. It’s not your fault that they can’t see it. It’s either because they don’t want to or they simply have not taken the time to understand it. And that has nothing to do with you but every reason as to why you are angry about it. It’s ok to be angry about something when you anger generates positive actions in the end.
So the next time someone makes you angry and you want to voice it; if it is for the right reasons and agenda, done with care; then by all means let them know they have made the offense not you. Stand tall about your work, life, and play. Direct that anger to making sure you are doing your best to avoid situations like that. But at the same time, remember, it’s not always a bad thing to be angry for there are right reasons to be so.
“Never, lie , cheat, or steal. Always strike a fair deal” and you won’t have to experience the Anger in misdirection. Keep your own ducts in a row and you will live a happier life.
Join me next Sunday, for Sunday Morning Reflections With E. Michelle Lee and check in Saturday to get your recap of the week done before we do these reflections. Recapping and Reflecting will help you each week to prepare and plan your week ahead by learning from your week before.